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Bisexuality Mods

I’ve seen some stuff about bisexuality mods in Dragon Age and after thinking about it, I have some Opinions™. People who are for them say “more representation is better!” People who are against them say “it takes away the character’s agency!” In theory, bisexuality mods are a good thing, but in practice, I hate them. My reasoning? Representation and accuracy. It seems like the most difficult thing in the world for some people to grasp, but NOT EVERYONE IN ANY GIVEN GROUP WILL BE THE SAME. I am a gay trans man and my best friend is a straight cis guy. My boyfriend is cis and bi, my best friend’s girlfriend is cis and straight. My friend group is a mix of sexualities, and I’m glad that the Dragon Age series shows that in companions! In Dragon Age: Origins, Alistair and Morrigan were straight, Zevran and Leliana were bi. I thought it was great and pretty accurate to how real life works. In Dragon Age 2, however, it felt a bit odd that they were all bi. Isabela was totally believable as bi or pan, but would’ve worked just as well as a lesbian, and I prefer romancing her as a female Hawke (but that’s more of a personal bias). Anders being bi actually bothered me. He was gay coded, and I didn’t like the odd gendered reactions they gave him. I don’t have any objections to the other bi companions though. Dragon Age: Inquisition handled the diversity in sexualities the best, in my opinion. We had the exclusively gay Dorian and the exclusively lesbian Sera, which are two of my favourite Inquisition romances btw. We also had the bi/pan Iron Bull (my absolute favourite) and Josephine. And of course we had straight people interested in any race in Cassandra and Blackwall, and straight people that were only interested in certain races in Cullen (humans and elves) and Solas (elves only). And I think it’s a good thing! Different people are looking for different things, and sometimes you just don’t fit that description. Know what I don’t like though? People who bitch that “Dorian should date female Inquisitors too!” Or “Cullen should date male Inquisitors!” Or “Cassandra should be bi/lesbian because I want her!” You know what I do when I want to romance a specific character that has specific preferences? I MAKE ANOTHER CHARACTER THAT FITS WITH WHAT THEY LIKE TO ROMANCE THEM. My dysphoria gets so bad sometimes that I can’t even stand to have my characters being referred to as female, but I still made a Qunari lady for Sera, and I still made a lady Lavellan to do Solas’s romance. I made a lady Cousland to have an Origins save where I marry Alistair. See, I know they’re all fictional characters, but I still respect their orientations because that’s how I am in my real life! If I ask a guy out and he says “I’m straight,” “I’m not into trans guys,” “I don’t date people from other races,” or something like that, I RESPECT IT BECAUSE PEOPLE HAVE PREFERENCES AND TRYING TO FORCE THEM TO CHANGE THAT FOR YOU IS CONCEITED, ARROGANT, AND VERY WRONG. Thanks for reading my rant and feel free to agree or disagree with me! Everyone has their own feelings, thoughts, and opinions on matters and I respect that! I just thought this was an important thing to bring up, especially during Pride Month.